Why I like porn with chubby bodies in it.

I’ve been consuming porn since I found my grandmother’s filthy novels and figured out that if I squinted long enough at the static of SPICE, I could make out the fucking. It’s still kind of hush-hush that women consume porn—it’s still considered a man’s domain, largely, though it is starting to change—and even more hush-hush that chubby/curvy/fat/whatever women watch and enjoy porn.

In the world of sex and selling sex, chubby folks are often categorized as a fetish or niche market. The politics of desire usually translate into what makes the big studios the most money. It’s easier to sell a size two than a size 16. Why? I don’t know. I don’t believe as many men are solely attracted to stereotypical porn bodies as we culturally might be led to believe. Bodies featured in pornography in the United States [I can’t speak to out of the country, but I’d love to hear about it] are not abnormal—I don’t personally use the party line of porn stars not being real women, as they sure look real to me—but less common. The average size of a woman in the US is size 12-14. Maybe it’s ease of acquiring—I really don’t know.

Back to the topic at hand—why I like and seek out porn with chubby bodies in it.

• I can relate to it. As a size 16/18 woman who weighs in at around 250 on a regular basis, I don’t physically have a lot in common with a woman who is half my size or smaller. I can’t fold up like a lot of smaller women can and my body moves a whole lot differently than my skinnier counterparts. If my brain cannot plug in, my cunt is not likely to do so.
• In that vein, it’s based in my reality. My sex partners, male or female, have never looked like someone in mainstream porn. I like porn that could be my life, even if it’s a completely debauched version of my life. I date guys who have bellies and hair and who don’t have 9 inch cocks and I date girls whose bellies fold when I put their legs on my shoulders. It’s hot when I watch something and have a moment of body synesthesia when I can go, yeah, when I get fucked from behind my tits and tummy bounce like that.
• It reaffirms my identity as a sexual person. A logical conclusion from watching a lot of mainstream porn with smaller bodies might be that fat people don’t have sex. It’s an easy thing to believe when you don’t see people like you fucking around and, if you have a partner who enjoys mainstream porn as much as mine does, it can be a relief to see something that looks like you.
• Every time you watch chubby girl/chubby boy porn or rent it, it takes it out of the fetish category and into hey-normal-people-like-this. It’s a subversive act on a couple levels and I like subversive and I don’t like being a fetish. I like HAVING fetishes, but I don’t appreciate BEING one. Not to say that other chubby people are wrong or weird for liking or being okay with being fetishized—I am all about whatever gets you off.
• For me, if I’m being honest, if I’m watching porn with bodies in it that resemble mine, I’m not going to feel as self-conscious or less attractive or whatever. I can’t speak for any other curvy folks but I know that my body makes sex a potential mine field for me—my partner is not terribly into my body in the shape it’s in and sometimes I am more fragile around that than I’d like to be. It’s comforting to see and be turned on by chubby folks getting laid and being desired.
• It’s hot. Do I need to expound?

All that said, I like sexy things. I prefer sexy things with people like me having fun and being desired for who they are, but sexy is sexy and sometimes I get wet for things I didn’t know I’d like—the quote on the sidebar about my cock/cunt not talking about politics.

I also firmly believe that accepting bigger bodies as sexy and desirable does NOT mean that smaller bodies are somehow icky or less valid or less sexy than mine. I find it really frustrating that some chubby folks think it’s okay to put down skinny people for being in the bodies that they are in. I hear everything from that skinny people are not real when they’re made out of flesh, too, to skinny people are unhealthy. Are some skinny people unhealthy due to being skinny? Sure, but the same can be said of chubby people. Our sexualities don’t need to be dependent on putting someone elses embodiment down.

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